Introversion: My WoW Expansion Fatigue Armor
I’m an introvert; you can also throw in a large handful of social anxiety, a cup of plain old anxiety, and a dash of depression. This probably makes me a fairly normal person. Not the mix of maladies, but that I have them. I don’t think there’s any OCD in there because I’d be much more organized if there were. We all come with custom blends.
I am walking on tippy, tippy toes here. I’m going to talk about something I know nothing about and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I recently realized, yeah I’m a slow learner, that I don’t understand extroverts and never even tried to. I just knew that they don’t understand us introverts but never stopped to think about how they feel.
I’m married to an introvert with a different blend. He doesn’t have as much plain old anxiety but has more social anxiety. We have a running joke; we’re apparently psycho murderers just waiting to blow. At least if you watch the evening news when a reporter (they HAVE to be extroverts) does the rounds of the neighborhood after someone flips out. “They kept to themselves.” “They never really spoke other than a hello.” The list goes on. Absolute proof that they were certifiably insane. Not really, it’s also proof that you’re an introvert but see, extroverts don’t know that, cause well … they’re extroverts.
I thought about our neighborhood. If my husband or I went completely bonkers, what would the neighbors say about us when interviewed? On reflection we’re pretty safe because almost all the people in this neighborhood have dogs. If you have a dog I can talk to you, I seem pretty normal. My dog walking buddy thinks I’m quite outgoing, she doesn’t know it’s just because we have a common interest. Otherwise, when interviewed by the peppy extrovert reporter she’d be saying, “I knew there was something wrong there, she kept to herself.”
So yeah, yeah, there’s a point, I’m getting to it.
Recently, and even before SWTOR, I’ve read posts where the author says things about WoW like:
My friends are all gone, I don’t want to play, there’s no point.
What’s the point of playing alone with just pixels, it’s lonely.
The game is empty now, so many of my friends have left, I don’t want to log in.
In the past I just would have thought, “Oh, don’t be silly, there’s lots to do in the game,” almost exactly like my extrovert friends say to me, when I don’t want to go to a function. “Oh, don’t be silly.” they say, “You’ll know most of the people there.”
Then it came to me. Extroverts really feel that way! They really do need people to thrive and enjoy WoW. And geez, did I feel bad and sorry. I’ve heard people say those things before, but I didn’t really listen, just like they don’t listen to introverts when they helpfully drag them kicking and screaming on outings. My mother comes to mind. An extrovert, she still thinks she can “cure” me.
There are some strange quirks to this introvert thing. I have no trouble with public speaking, I just can’t chit chat. If I were in your guild, I’d be the one who never says anything other than, “Grats!” or “Welcome.” But I’m just downright chatty on this blog.
The best analogy I ever heard used to describe the difference between introverts and extroverts was comparing them to a battery. Introvert’s batteries are drained by being around a lot of people and extrovert’s batteries are recharged by groups of people.
For me, the defection of WoW players means I can go to Uldum and farm about four stacks of Whiptail in just a few minutes. That’s all the difference it makes for solitary me. For an extrovert, the defection of friends has caused unhappiness and loneliness and I’d guess it’s draining their batteries, not having friends around.
I think Blizzard is aware of this; they must have some extroverts working there. I’d say the BattleTag system is a big step to helping with this, at least while playing Blizzard games. I wish I had a solution but I don’t. I do know now that my … introvertness? Introvertism? Oh whatever, being an introvert is apparently my WoW anti-fatigue armor. Being a weird, reclusive, mountain man of WoW has finally paid off. I’m apparently immune to expansion fatigue.
Thanks Matty, for the inspiration. She started the train of thought that ended with my being grateful for being an introvert, just this once. I sympathize with you extroverts, I finally think I get it. We’ll be waiting hopefully for your return, come Mists of Panderia.
Yep, that’s mah kin up there. I thought they looked like a bunch of introverted mountain men … except … that’s Minnesota. It’s where they ended up after leaving Ireland for Nova Scotia and then from Nova Scotia they moved south and stayed a while. It really looks like they’re running a rest stop for outlaws but I don’t know if Minnesota got a lot of outlaw traffic. The gentleman on the right is my great-great grandfather (could be another great in there, not sure) and the one in the center is his father. I’ve decided to blame my introversion on them since they’re not here to protest.
And oh, they have dogs. Definitely my people.